[Published on Huffington Post] Over the years as we grow to maturity and seek to find our true selves, we are also growing a very strong sense of independence.  From learning how to walk, talk and dress ourselves to the more complicated adult discoveries like career choices or life partner selections we strive to "do it ourselves". No help needed here. In so many ways, we also learn that asking for help can be seen as a sign of weakness.  In so many ways, it does help us to do a lot of personal development.  We struggle almost continuously.  And all the while, we are at the ready to lend a helping hand to any who ask.