Catch Up or Let Go?

I haven’t written a blog in a very long time. At first I thought I would do multiple blogs to catch up but soon there just became too many. Soon I was totally overwhelmed. For a time, I honestly thought that I’d catch up one day. But now I believe that I will post this explanation and simply let go.

For the past couple of years I have been the 24/7 caregiver for my husband who had a rare neurological illness – Progressive Supranuclear Palsy (PSP). He passed away last year.

It was my privilege to care for him. Joe was my third husband and I, his third wife. We shared so much joy and laughter after our practice marriages and finally getting it “right”. It was a no-brainer to shelve my career in order to care for him. Rather than spend my days somewhere entertaining and educating others, I got to share those final days with the love of my life.

So today I begin anew. I will not fall prey to any perfectionist thoughts that say I have to catch up for missing time – the missing blogs. There are no regrets which haunt me. Instead I have incredible memories.

Are you struggling to catch up? Are you buckling under the pressure? Do you wonder what others will think if you simply let go and move on?

It isn’t about what others think. It’s about what you can live with. I believe that sometimes we are the only ones who place these outrageous expectations on ourselves. So to you I say, let it go.

Shed the regrets and get busy making memories. Store them up for when you need them most.

It’s a Strength NOT a Weakness

[Published on Huffington Post] Over the years as we grow to maturity and seek to find our true selves, we are also growing a very strong sense of independence.  From learning how to walk, talk and dress ourselves to the more complicated adult discoveries like career choices or life partner selections we strive to “do it ourselves”. No help needed here.

In so many ways, we also learn that asking for help can be seen as a sign of weakness.  In so many ways, it does help us to do a lot of personal development.  We struggle almost continuously.  And all the while, we are at the ready to lend a helping hand to any who ask.   Continue Reading

Just How Fast Was It?

[Published on Huffington Post]When did it become that faster was equated with being better? Not only do we expect that we have to perform faster but we also know that it is going to cost us more and we are okay with that.

We talk about the speed of cars in terms of how fast they can get from zero to sixty and that is measured in seconds. After all, it is so really very important that our car will spring us into action at a stop light so we can be first at the next one. Is this a status symbol? For some it is.

Is the crux of the problem with road rage why people are demanding to get to where they are going faster?

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15 Minutes to Minimize Stress

[Published on Huffington Post] Too often today so many of us are caught up in the daily grind, wondering how we can get off the hamster wheel of life. This can’t help but lead us to experience feelings of overwhelm and the more we feel that way the greater our stress levels.

Our days tend to look like this; get up, go to work, come home, go to bed. Rinse and repeat day after day. With little to no time to unwind, there is little opportunity to minimize the stress from the hectic schedule. One day quickly melds with the next and suddenly weeks and months have passed. The intent to address the stress never gets implemented but should be. With a mere 15 minutes each day, and with discipline to be consistent, stress can be significantly minimized. How easy does that sound?

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How to Become a Great Listener

[Published on Huffington Post]Most people aren’t great listeners. While someone is talking to them, they are more than likely thinking about what it is they are going to say when it is their turn. Sometimes, there is a game involved like My Story is Better than Your Story.

Because there are so few great listeners, if you develop this skill you will stand out from the crowd. People gravitate towards listeners and in the workplace, those who can do this well will excel. Building relationships with colleagues runs deeper and truer which allows for less friction.

Ever notice how great a listener a dog is.   Continue Reading